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Okay, I'm twenty, but for some reason I have always found older women (meaning late twenties and older) to be so interesting! They are drama-free, mature and are good at listening and being serious and modest! And also, they are very down-to-earth and charming, plus they're...genuine.
I don't know if you've met my generation's girls...but they are such a disappointment. Their sense of commitment in a relationship is about as long as they keep a song on their iPods (not very long), and they are so selfish and drama-filled. Plus, they overdo it with the sarcasm and are astoundingly shallow...it's disgusting.
But anyway, why is it that if a twenty year-old guy likes older women, that's all scandalous and I'm acting like I want a "MILF"? I'm not superficial! CNN.com - In the Field::
and theres so much tension in the air you could almost cut it with a an adult has the right to love whoever they want, and if that is their sibling so be it.
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it's not frowned upon, those that frown are either jealous guys your age, or jealous older guys who think u're competing with them.
the tradition that men go for younger women has to do with breeding. in the olden ages a man had to establish himself economically before he could pick a wife. then they usually chose younger women who had more years of fertility (remember life expectancy was low then) and life altogether. also families used to marry their daughters out at an early age.
Oh dear, well on behalf of my generation I apologize.
I feel weird about huge age differences between partners because of the whole 's/he's old enough to be your mother/farther!' association but I can understand why you'd be attracted to more mature women.
My last girlfriend (ha, imagine a teenage girl with a 30 year old woman!) was my age but very cultured and intelligent and I don't know anyone else like her.
Your friends are not a function of time.
Although I understand what you are trying to say about girls of your age (and I always felt like that about men, too!), I think the problem arises when you want to make a commitment to someone.
Because older women are likely to have different priorities, such as starting a family, getting married, etc. whereas 20-years old young men might not want to rush is.
But there are exceptions everywhere, so who knows, maybe a relationship with an older woman could work for you.
As long as you don't say (like you did!) that you are giving up on Love, altogether!
Well, I don't understand the acronym, but (a) there's nothing wrong with appreciating maturity; and (b) you really overdid it with the harshness towards women your age, dude. Chill already. They're not all the same.
So you like the mature look. There's nothing wrong with that, but for most of history a person's worth, male or female, was in his reproductive success. The closer you get to a relationship where there is no possibility of offspring, the more likely you are to incur unpleasantness (not that it's right, but that's the attitude that most people unconsciously have).
Quit listening to what society tells you. Society is an idiot.
I'm kind of in the same boat. I usually get along with older guys, not because I think it's cool, but because they're more mature. Of course, that makes me a gold digging you-know-what.
LOL, actually I totally see your issue. Unfortunently, or maybe fortunently you somehow missed being your generations kind of guy. I was more mature for my age as well. Went to college at 17 and had my first real date with a guy 7 years my senior. Married one 5 years older and we still have a laugh when he asks if I remember something from x year when I was like 3 or 5 LOL. Not so bad of a gap though.
The issue shouldnt be age, but you do need to consider the generational differences. They are there for those with about a 10 year gap. I would say that the reasons you are attracted to older women are reasonable, but those qualities CAN be found in women your age, just not as easy to find. And chances are, those girls your age are searching for guys like you and finding them hard to find as well (am I making sense or just rambling now?). Put yourself in situations where you can meet these girls. College would be a great place, as would a Church or other regular social situation (not a bar though).
You are very young still and something to think about is getting the education and job to be the kind of man the women you want will want. I would be concerned about older women going out with you just for your youth and using you. By focusing on your career and developing yourself for a few years you will avoid a lot of heartache and maybe even find your dream woman along the way. Its usually when you are NOT looking that you find what you want.
Something else, sorry this is so long. I found out the hard way that while I was ahead of the curve on my peers in a lot of ways, nothing replaces experiance learning which you just havent had the time to learn. I got my heart broken very badly just due to lack of life experiance.
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I hope things work out for you, just remember you still have LOTS of time and are young. If I knew how much I would learn in these last 8 years (since I was 20) I wouldnt have believed it. Nor would I have believed how much life would have changed from what I was expecting.
I really don't know. maybe it's because they see the older female as a the one that can be his mommy! who know!!
I dated once a guy 8 years younger than me, very mature.
But now I am with a 7 year older than me and I love him.
I think perhaps you are too paranoid, or even seeking some drama?
I don't perceive an attitude within society that it is frowned upon at all. Generally, society is very accepting of a wide range of relationship situations, including the younger guy/older woman. Also, someone in their late 20's/early 30's could hardly be a MILF. I thought you had to have kids to be a MILF, with the trend for women to have children later in life then the age category for a MILF is more like late 30's/early 40's.
I would think it is because of the image it portrays....the man looking weaker then the woman.
Yes it is true of your generation and those before you.....you sound like a very mature man for your age...which is also natural, usually :). Woman take a bit longer and sometimes never.
Keep searching......as time goes by they will catch up to you.
And NO to your final question..... :).....:)
I don't think its anyone else's business whom you love - Its not like you can help it. I think some of the problem might be wanting to defend it rather than just getting on with it. Because you don't need approval just the courage to stay 100% behind yourself when you get flak .
Maybe the proof will be how contented you are in yourself.
I loved that cult film Harold and Maude just watched it again recently and its really touching.
I think the answer to your question is that people like the known and what they think of as 'normal' and 'natural' . Closed minds are frightened of changes in social patterns - it is just how it is. Surround yourself wit people who are more open minded.
it reminds me of going to the hacienda with my son and being given dirty looks all evening to the point where i wished I had a badge saying `'I'm his mum OK?"
I see no problem with it. As long is the lady isn't in her fifties or something. hahaha
I can see your reasoning behind wanting older woman. They are more sure of the direction they want there life to go and are more dependablee.
No problem at all.
Oh Samian, read your first paragraph again. You're describing maturity.
All of this just means that you're ahead of the majority of your age group. It will be easier in a few years when more of them catch up to you. In the meantime, keep your eyes open for others who are also more mature and finding it hard to fit in.
Enjoy your crushes right now. It's a way of practicing for future relationships. Those whose crushes are fleeting and based on looks are setting that pattern for themselves. It sounds like you're setting a healthy pattern for yourself. At 20 years, that's what you should be doing.
If you enjoy her company why not? You don't have to marry her, just enjoy her company and see what happens from there.
I feel the same way about men. I am much more interested in older men because they are less drama, more confident, and more knowledgeable. However, there are few men out there, like you, possibly, that have these qualities at an early age. It is rare, though.
And as a woman, I know I've gotten much better with age, so I can see why you wouldn't have liked me at age 20 but you might now, haha.
Society 'frowns upon' younger guys dating older women for reproductive reasons. A male is fertile for a lifetime, but a woman is usually infertile by their 40's or sometimes 50's when they go through menopause.
Since humans, instinctively, are opposed to harming reproductive trends, as can be seen by some primitive hatred towards homosexuals, the behavior is discouraged. Young men are seen as having potential to pollinate young girls. Older women have less of a chance of being pollinated, so you would be seen as wasting raw 'potential', in terms of reproduction.
However, I say go for it if that's what you are into. The world is already over populated, so creating a small aberration in the reproduction trend wouldn't have a significant impact; even if it had an impact, it would be more positive than negative.
*Also, some people may be aware that there is a higher chance of having a 'defective' child if an older woman gives birth; that is something you should take into consideration, I guess. The older the female, the more likely something like Down Syndrome will occur in their child.
(The reason you like older women is probably because you see more stability in that type of relationship, though I am no expert in finding partners. You might be genetically inclined to loving older women because you see a higher probability that your offspring will survive because you feel the relationship will be more stable. Also, you may see older women as having more experience, or having taken part in more reciprocal altruistic events)
There's nothing wrong with it. You like what you like, and society has no say in how you conduct your affairs. I myself tend to go for older guys as well (within reason though, I don't see myself dating a thirty-something-year-old just yet), for similar reasons.
I guess the only reason people raise eyebrows is because it simply isn't '"traditional" in relationships. No big deal. They'll get over it.
By the way, I hope you realize that not ALL girls in your generation are quite like that :).
I like guys older than me.
Ignore the idiots and do what you like. It's your life, sweetie. Be happy! Screw what anyone else thinks.
Perhaps the young girls object, Fkem who cares what society thinks when in fact it doesnt it just reacts
I have no problem with it. I was with 5 of my teachers when I was in High School. Nowadays they arrest female teachers for that, but in the 70s it was just good fun. Never hurt me a bit.
Beauty is said to be in The Eye of the beholder?? But that would mean an outward appearance. It's always nice to check out the Heart too.
We buy a Car because it looks Good and gets good Gas mileage. That's how most pick their mates. Leading to Divorce.
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