so my best friend who just turned 17 is going out with a 21 year old guy. I'm a little worried about her. He might just be the jealous type. But he freaks out if she talks to any other guy..he expects her to erase all her guy friends from her life. He get mad every time she goes out without him. He's always concered about what she's wearing, saying its too short or too revealing and he doesnt want others guys looking. He calls and texts her constantly..throughout the night..at school..if she doesnt answer, he gets furious. He gave her an extra phone that he could contact her with at all times. He told me once that he was mad because she hung out with all her girl friends instead of hanging out with him. He will not let her go to any parties or anywhere alone. The other night we went to one and she didnt call him as soon as we got there, and he came into it freaking out and yelling.
I'm worried...is it as serious as I think it is?
Yeah. It sounds pretty serious... Talk to her about it and if that doesn't work talk to your mom and see if your mom and her mom could talk...
yes he is over protective. although, its up to your friend to put her foot down, she needs to tell him that he can trust her, and it makes her upset that he acts like he cant. make sure she is strong with him because it could get worse!
Yes it is at least as serious as you think it is. This is the beginning of an abusive relationship and you never really know how far they will escalate. Do your best to convince her she is putting herself in danger and it is not good for her. Try to enlist help.
He sounds pretty insecure and is probably worried that if she leaves him, he'll never find another gf again. If I were her, I'd try to talk to him into giving her her own space. It that doesn't work, it's ex to the next bf. What Would Jesus Drive?::
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Yeah my boyfriend is somewhat like that.. but I'm the same. I'll go crazy if I find out hes even been talking to a girl. Guess we go hand in hand.. but your friend and her guy don't.
Oh yes, he definitely sounds controlling. First of all, a true loving relationship is one in which there is complete and total trust. If he truly cared about her, then he'd be able to trust her enough to not care if she went out with just her friends or talked to other guys. A true loving relationship takes trust, and it seems he doesn't really trust her.
He also controls what she wears, that's not good.
Plus, he also seems extremely clingy, it's not good that he's not okay with her going places without him. He should be able to let her hang out with her friends whenever she wanted. They should be able to keep their personal space and friends as well as see each other.
I would try talking to her about it. If she takes your advice to heart and talks to him about it, great.
She might also not listen to you and deny that he does this or she might talk to him about it and he might get mad at her. Either way, I'd talk to mutual friends or even a counselor about it. This relationship doesn't seem healthy at all and it might get worse if it keeps up. XML.com: What Is RDF::
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Your friend should run like the wind. If she doesn't see it yet I'm sorry to say but she most likely wont see it until she's in pretty deep. Hopefully you can talk to her and tell her your thoughts. She's 17 so you might want to give her parents the heads up if you think this dude could be dangerous.
Yes, that's too controlling. Relationships are built on love, honesty and trust. Not control and intimidation and monitoring w/ cell phones... u
Tell her to run and run fast. He is insecure and immature and will/can become violent.
LOL MY BABY IS Protctive but NOT that much
ok ii wear cloth not to show of my body but to him
But nothingliek this dude
oh man
Talk to her and him the same time and sort things out
You tell her parents right now. She is still a minor. That is way too controlling and she needs to be kept away. That can soon lead to beatings.
It is extremely serious! Those are all signs of a controlling man, and it can lead to abuse very quickly. A healthy relationship doesn't need one controlling the other
This is very serious! She needs to stop seeing this guy. I don't know how you can convince her of this. The longer she is with him the worse he will get. Some women have been killed by men like him who take over their lives. I will have you in my prayers.
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Yes, your friend needs to ditch this guy quickly. No one deserves to be treated like a slave in a relationship. She needs to stand up for herself and either tell this guy to back off, or break up.
Yes, it is a serious as you think it is. Maybe more.
She needs to run away from him, and fast. It will only get worse. She is very vulnerable due to her young age and inexperience, and he is preying on that.
Don't be surprised if she has problems getting rid of him. He sounds like serious stalker material to me.
Seriously, she needs to ditch this loser before he starts abusing her physically. Believe me, that's next.
Good luck.
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