I am in an 8 month relationship with a very dangerous man. He is involed in a dangerous gang, one of those true hard core gangs. I know you think it sounds ridiculous for me being with him but it was a rebound relationship which i got into too deeply. I was engaged to a firefighter last december & i found out just before the wedding that 2 weeks before we where due to be married on his stag night he slept with an older woman due to alot of alcohol. I was heartbroken we had been together for 8 years, im 25 & he is 27. My current boyfriend(28) is really into me, always kissing me, telling me he loves me and all that. What he does scares me so much, im scared for my safety. I know that i brought it on myself but i didnt think i would be so stupid. Now i feel terrified to leave him. He has become obsessed with me, so my friends say. The thing is my ex fiance asked me to go back to him. He is back in my life through my brother who works with him. I never stoped loving him, but i felt my world was destroyed when i found out about the stag night. He knows that my current boyfriend is in that world.
Please help me with some advice
and no sarcasic remarks please i dont need them
Thank you so much!
I know his infidelity was very hard to take, but it didn't have to be the end of the relationship. Lots of guys slip, especially when the right circumstances occur in conjunction with alcohol. Almost anything can be forgiven if there is enough love and a genuine desire on the offenders part to change. My advice is to leave the gang member and then try it again with the ex fiance. I don't know the circumstances and so can't comment on how dangerous it might be. Maybe if you became a real "drag" and unavailable a lot of the time the guy would leave you instead of you having to make the move. You might want to let some time pass between relationships too.
Oh sweetie, this doesn't sound good. You are pregnant with this mans baby. Surely he isn't going to be happy if you walk away, he's going to want to be involved with that baby, or at least use that as an excuse...
Geesh, I guess if you aren't happy and don't feel safe then there is no reason to stay, it's just that you need a safe way of getting out of there fast, and make sure that he doesn't track you down or your family.
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You mentioned that your ex and your brother are fire fighters, would they have any connections to police or anyone in that field? If so see if they can shed any light on a good way out for you, that would ensure your safety.
best wishes!
your 25? then move.... far away!
I am seriuos a change of place will remove all these problems and increase your safety too, then if you screw it up again you know it wil be you and not the people in your life and you can seek help then. If you get a clean start and things go well then you know the people you surrounded yourself with were not good. Either way you get a shot to do what you want not what others ask of you.
Relocate on the sly totally to another state. You need a breather and get into codependents anonymous
I understand ive got into bad relationships on the rebound and it doesn't sound good...but if you feel u can't leave because you or your ex might get hurt you need to get out its only stages and he might get worse..I would leave he cant make you stay if its over..your ex is a total idiot too for betraying you...maybe none of these guys are right maybe you need time out..that's what i did..now 3 years later im so happy and married to a great guy..Leaving is always the worst time with an obsessed guy so make sure you've got support speak to DV advocate although it may not seem a domestic it could turn out that way..protect yourself and stay safe it will work out if you want to give your ex a chance when you've got out of this relationship then that's up to you..maybe one chance but deal with this one first or you could make matters ten times worse good luck
okay:
- dont go back to your ex husband hes a jerk are you kidding so close to your wedding day he does that theres no way you can take him back
- and wow you have gotten yourself into a huge problem. do NOT NOT NOT NOT marry this guy or have him involved in your life. one of my friends has a dad involved in this situation and he is on house arrest and her family is broken apart and it is horrible its so tough on her mom and her sister and brother. never do that somehow he will be found out and either you will get hurt physically or emotionally when they take him away he is ssoooo dangerous.!!
- however, you cant dump him because that would also put you in danger if he is obsessed with you. i think that you should somehow make him stop being obssessed with you, make yourself more distant, or something, so when you guys break up he will just forget about it and move on
- please be careflul!! this can ruin your life
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go here now read, find safety and help a relocation may be in your life. There are many women who can give you good advice here. Take it all you are too young. This will effect you and your ex in more ways than one. If you are afraid we all agree.
Oh sweetie. You need to leave both alone. give yourself time to know the real you. Step up and step out that door.
If the first bf is righteous then he will wait for you to clear your head.
Protect yourself from your current bf. actions speak louder than words.
and his actions speak 'all wrong'. his words are his way of controlling you.
Walk away.
it really does sounds you love your ex a lot .. and you probably never really loved the new guy that much. maybe u can overwhelm the new guy with your "fake" love to a point where he doesnt want to be with u, and brake up nicely or try to find something he did wrong and make him feel that it is something u can not take but u really care for him , never say that you want to get back to your ex that might create a big thing if he really is obssessed with u,and he is getting more in love because you are pulling out, he feels that u r baking up so he will push himself on u more and think about u all the time.
u r in a hard situation, but dont let the guy u love involved, u have to solve it on your own. it takes a bit of time few months maybe .
Good luck
this is a really scary situation, maybe you should go to the police. they might be able to provide you with the protection you need so that you can leave him.
People say walk away but its not that easy. You really have to be careful here because you have put yourself in danger, and if you return with your ex you can put him in danger too.I would say if you want to return with your ex talk to him about it and decide together maybe on moving or on doing something about this problem together. you'll feel much better and protected if someone you trust knows about this. Just don't ever act on impulse I'm sure you understand from experience know it's better to think things through.
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